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**AGD_kid** · August 21st, 08:57 PM

alot like my GF, but shes a church girl, so no cheating, and other than her roommate, she only has like 3 girl friends, and 8 guys friends... 2 she used to date. i live an hour or so away, and shes going ot UGA, but we make it work.

**Stan** · August 21st, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by m98_bmx

I would trust her. It doesn't sound like you've got a reason not too.

true, trust her till she gives you a reason not too.

**AGD_kid** · August 21st, 09:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Stan

true, trust her till she gives you a reason not too.

then make it look like an accident...

**XtremeAaron** · August 21st, 09:44 PM

No more breaks. Tell her you not going to be on the back burner when things with another guy fall through.

**dfdtrumpet** · August 21st, 11:47 PM

^^^^good call.

tell her no more breaks anymore. next time you break it off, its for good.

personally i trust my gf. she still talks to her ex pretty reguarly and stuff, and she's hung out with him just the two of them several time since we've been together. i honestly dont mind.

but its how you interperet it. just because i trust mine doesnt mean the same should stand for you. every girl is not the same(it takes a while to learn that the hard way)

**dhill0413** · August 22nd, 12:02 AM

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Originally Posted by dfdtrumpet

^^^^good call.

tell her no more breaks anymore. next time you break it off, its for good.

personally i trust my gf. she still talks to her ex pretty reguarly and stuff, and she's hung out with him just the two of them several time since we've been together. i honestly dont mind.

but its how you interperet it. just because i trust mine doesnt mean the same should stand for you. every girl is not the same(it takes a while to learn that the hard way)

Ultimatums are stupid. Don't say "no more break" because that is just plain dumb to say. Let things go and think about how things are going. Give it an honest assessment and youll know whether things are right to stay together.

like dfd said, not all girls are worthy of trust. you do have to learn that the hard way, unfortunately. but everytime you get hurt youll learn more, and be more reserved with your trust. personally....any girl i trust has to be awesome, because ive been hurt pretty bad by some damned good liars.

**OhRLY** · August 22nd, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by dhill0413

Ultimatums are stupid. Don't say "no more break" because that is just plain dumb to say. Let things go and think about how things are going. Give it an honest assessment and youll know whether things are right to stay together.

like dfd said, not all girls are worthy of trust. you do have to learn that the hard way, unfortunately. but everytime you get hurt youll learn more, and be more reserved with your trust. personally....any girl i trust has to be awesome, because ive been hurt pretty bad by some damned good liars.

So every time she sees some guy she wants to do something with, she should be able to "Take a break" so that technically, shes not cheating on you? Good idea.

And to the thread starter, if she takes a break again, dump her. She's had 2 strikes, 3rd and you're out.

**sNoW PIrAnHa** · August 22nd, 11:28 AM

Tell her your feelings (you're starting to get a little worried and jealous), tell her if you take a break its going to be permanent, and give her some attention. Afterall, she's only doing it because she wants attention from guys that like her.

**Carmas** · August 22nd, 12:20 PM

Talk to her about it, but also trust her and don't try to control her. You try to control her she will feel like you don't trust her, feel controlled and be annoyed with you / driven away from you. Talk to her about it, but don't let that talk become an argument.

I was in the same situation, except she didn't intentionally hang with guys she liked, just the guys she hung out with all wanted her. She was the same way, really good looking but liked chilling with all the guys, so it's a given that would happen. Honestly, trusting her works fine, and she'll appreciate it.

**dhill0413** · August 22nd, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by OhRLY

So every time she sees some guy she wants to do something with, she should be able to "Take a break" so that technically, shes not cheating on you? Good idea.

And to the thread starter, if she takes a break again, dump her. She's had 2 strikes, 3rd and you're out.

you got what i was saying wrong. What i was saying is that ultimatums are stupid...mainly because most people never follow up on them and then when they dont they lose whatever respect was left from the other person. instead of an ultimatum, he should look at his relationship and decide whether he should continue in it, or break it off right now. continuing and allowing breaks to occur is not the good decision.

**OhRLY** · August 22nd, 04:42 PM

Basically, the best solution is to tell her how you feel, and if she really loves you, she'll abide to what you say (given that it is reasonable). Just communicate and everything will turn out for the best<3

**M4Maniac** · August 22nd, 07:44 PM

i think the threadstarter is gone...

***Rick78*** · August 22nd, 11:01 PM

o im still here, lol, just reading all the good advice

***Rick78*** · August 22nd, 11:05 PM

well, my situation is just weird

we could honestly see us getting married, weve been going out for over a year and in so completely in love, when we're together we cant stop smiling, we have such a great time together, we really care about each other, and we both want the same things in our future.

BUT, we're just 18 & 19 years old, and she always gets told by alot of people u cant fall in love too early in life, and u gotta go clubbing and **** for a couple years to really enjoy your life. ok whoever said that needs to die. Personally i could get married as young as 21, which is less then 2 years away, but people pressure her to break us apart so she can go live the 18year old single life. So so far its now 3 times she says she wants to take a break, then thinks about it harder, and realizes she doesnt wanna even think about what life would be like without me in it.

its all so complicated

**Sham3d** · August 23rd, 12:09 AM

not sure

but love hurts. enjoy the ride

**DJS2** · August 23rd, 05:37 AM

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Originally Posted by PAT McCORMICK

BUT, we're just 18 & 19 years old, and she always gets told by alot of people u cant fall in love too early in life, and u gotta go clubbing and **** for a couple years to really enjoy your life. ok whoever said that needs to die. Personally i could get married as young as 21, which is less then 2 years away, but people pressure her to break us apart so she can go live the 18year old single life.

I know how you feel, when you are in love and stuff marriage seems like it could be heaven. I really wouldnt even think about marriage until you live with her. Im sure you have spent a lot of time with her just like i have with my girl. But ive been told that it is so much different, seeing each other every day, and such. I know it seriously sounds awesome. I would love to move in with my girl...

i know how you feel. But take it slow, one step at a time. First would be education/job/money to eventually move in together and "try it out". This really isnt experience talking, just logic? And also people my be trying to get her away from you because they are jealous. They may want to spend more time with her living the single life.

The key is communication. Any problems, feelings, ect. TELL HER. If you are as serious as you say, you should be comfortable talking to her, however hard it may be.

**dhill0413** · August 23rd, 08:06 PM

everyone needs their heart broken at least once to realize that that girl isnt the one ur gonna marry...

sorry to be realistic but its true.