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I’m 17... and although I don’t really want to go to prom, my friends/parents expect it and its definitely something I could regret not attending in the future.

Anyway... theres 2 girls. Girl #1 is a new girl in my life whos actually a sophomore. We have a thing.. but we basically just met, and prom is a long whiles away. Next is girl #2, shes a senior whos been my friend for a couple years. A mutual friend laid a not-so-subtle hint to me today that I should ask her, right in front of girl #1... awkward.

I would probably go with girl #2 as a friend, and there would be less stress because I wouldn’t have to figure out people to go with(basically everyone already booked limos...) because we would probably go with her friends and just party after. But I’m not sure if girl #1 would even want me to ask her.. plus shes a sophomore.. and our “thing” could literally end at any moment.

Obviously I would rather go with girl #1 as I’m actually into her and we could have some real fun after prom, but shes a sophomore, we basically met like 2 weeks ago, and I have no idea what to do.

So who should I ask!? :ninja:
 

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go with the one you'll have the most fun with. Since you don't want to go, it'll make it worse if you're not having fun while you're there.

Highschool was a weird time, looking back. I had a lot of fun, but even though my life sucks right now, you couldn't give me any amount of money to go back there.
 

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prom is a long whiles away.
Then don't worry about it. Just buy two tickets and ask a few weeks to a month ahead of time to ensure they won't have a date.

I wouldn't even label my prom as a highlight of my high school experience, but everyone should go.

Oh, I asked one of my best friends by the way. Neither of us were dating anyone and she was cool, we had fun.
 

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First of all, you should definitely go. I didn't go my junior year and now I wish I had. Like Martix said, go with whoever you will have the most fun with.

We obviously can't say which one that is though. From my experience, it sounds like Girl 2 has a thing for you, which is why the other person said to ask her. So if you ask her, it may not be a "just friend" thing. And that could turn things ugly, unless you liked her.


Ps- I thought prom would be terrible. I was pretty anti-social then and still had a great time.
 
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Take every social experience you can get your hands on and make use of it.

I ended up not hitting up my Senior prom due to finances (car accidents cost a TON). My intention was to hit up the prom of my HS sweetheart (year younger...so I had time). Come to find out that 3-4 months after my prom...she'd been checking out my boy and ended up leaving me for him....

But yeah - I never ended up going. Its definitely something worth experiencing based on what others have said, and what I wish I'd done. I don't actively wish I had the experience... but I will say that I wouldn't regret knowing what it was like.

As far as to whom to ask - assume ANY relationship you currently have and any degree of closeness with either of these two girls is going to terminate on your graduation day. Act accordingly. Without the convenience of being in the same building, and with the hastening pace of life - a good number of people will fall off your radar the moment you accept your diploma, and that trend will continue until you only have your very best left surrounding you.

As others have said - Who will be more fun? Bring her, and don't second guess yourself.

, you couldn't give me any amount of money to go back there.
At first... I was going to go with the "QFT" reply there... but thinking on it - I'm not sure.

Given that you know what you did to make your situation what it was...getting a second shot at memories and making things play out the way you want them to? Pretty tempting. At the same time... you're right - it was fun, but I have no desire to go through the bull crap. Life was easier back then, but I'm not sure that I could go back to the way it was 10-15 years ago.
 

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I think in general it makes more sense to take girl 2. but what will girl #1 think when I ask a different girl to go even though me and her are becoming a thing. should I talk to her first about it?
 

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Highschool was a weird time, looking back. I had a lot of fun, but even though my life sucks right now, you couldn't give me any amount of money to go back there.
I agree. While I had some good times during my high school years, not a one was in any way related to school itself.

I think in general it makes more sense to take girl 2. but what will girl #1 think when I ask a different girl to go even though me and her are becoming a thing. should I talk to her first about it?
You just met her 2 weeks ago, and if you just have a "thing" and are not even dating, then I don't foresee an issue. And if there is an issue, that might be a bit of an alarm that this girl is CRAZY JEALOUS/CLINGY and you should be running away as fast as you can.
 

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agreed. I'll probably ask girl 2 to go as a friend, but I think it's the right thing to do to tell girl 1 first.. and ask if she would be alright with it. right?
 

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Well, I would hold off for a little bit. If there is a chance you and girl 1 actually start dating, it wouldn't make sense to take girl 2. The opposite side, if you are not actually going to date girl 1 it wouldn't make sense to take her either.



To sum it up, be a boss. Take both of them. :dodgy:

 
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You're looking to set yourself up for hardship here.

If you're looking to set yourself up with the sophos-moros ... then hold out until you two firm up.

If you're not intending on pursuing something - and you're interested in girl2...by all means.


But in notifying Girl 1 of any of your intentions regarding girl2... you nullify your chances of anything happening with girl 1
If Girl1 sees you and Girl1 getting cozy - she's either going to get competitive (as it would appear here..though that's a 3rd hand account from my angle)...or she's going to shut down...nullifying the "fun" you'd have with her...in most any capacity.


Be part of the Waitnsee indian tribe....
 

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Pick the slut who is more willing to put out and there is your answer. It's your senior prom, time to get laid.
 
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