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Whats up PBF? I'm extremely bored right now so I figured I'd make a random thread.

I was thinking that I don't post here much anymore, and that a lot of people tend to dislike me. I just kind of stopped posted and it seemed to get better, not that it mattered or anything. I could care less what anyone thinks of me. I just find it kind of amazing that I've been here 4 years and still visit. I also realize how much I miss Paintball and "the old days" with all my friends, even though I hated my life back then.. (or so I thought).

Life could use a good bounce, but then I think, theres a lot of good in it right now. I balance the ups and downs, and it's pretty even. I'll be in a completely ****ty mood, either extremely pissed or very sad/depression, and before I know it I'm smiling and laughing and having a good time. I'm thankful for this, I don't know how I do it, but it probably keeps me sane.

This isn't necessary an "emo thread" I was notorious for making back in the day.. I've grown up and matured quite a bit since then. Maybe I just need to get this off my chest.. since I can't really talk to anyone about it. This is about my life.. if you don't want to read it or don't care, then just hit the back button. And no, I will not be making a TL;DR.

Basically, theres this girl I've been crazy about for over a year now. We dated last year around November, didn't last long because when her parents found out I was a year older, they flipped out for some reason and forced her to break up with me. She kept refusing and kept getting yelled at and grounded. I finally told her it's over, because I didn't want her to suffer because of me. Now before we had dated, I had liked her since like July or August. One of the best nights of my life was at a football game we went to together.. I still look back on that.

We broke up and I continued to like her for months and months. Summer hit, and I turned into a player basically. I thought I was over her, but deep down I still had very strong feelings for her and she was at the back of my mind all the time. We started loosing contact very badly. We started talking and she got extremely upset when I texted her when I was drinking. She hates it.

So she has a few more boyfriends, we still don't have a whole lot of contact. This continues throughout the year up until about December. I had missed her too much, considering we were best friends and very close. I started talking to her again and started to fall for her all over again, only this time maybe a little more extreme. Up until a few days ago, she had a boyfriend she had been dating for a few months. Basically, **** hit the fan and she hated him. He couldn't take a clue at all, promised to try and make things better, she got sick of it and very bluntly broke up with him.

I think I went for the win a little too soon.. every other girl I've liked for the past year, nothing happened because I never went for it, never made a move, never let them know how I felt, nothing. This has happened so much, and one of my friends has gotten the girl knowing that I like them. So I didn't want this to happen with her, and I told her right away. I got nervous but I manned up and told her. She laughed and thought it was funny and had a smiley face with it. I thought oh she's just flirting with me, awesome.

Well theres this stupid ass dance that was tonight, and she really wanted to go but she was single. So on Friday, I caught up to her in the halls and starting asking her if she was still going. She said yes, so I asked if she was going with anyone. She said no, just her friend, Dianne. Now I hate dances, I'm only going to go to Prom and maybe Homecoming again. I figured asking her out to the dance and showing her a good time would win her over. I paused for a second, took a deep breath and proceeded to ask the question.

I got owned.. I was in the middle of saying "So I know how much you wanted to go to the dance, and I was just thinking that you and me.." right then and there, she frantically said "I'm sorry I've really got to get to lunch and go study." Gave me a hug and rushed off to the Commons. I stood there, just staring at her thinking "what the hell just happened?" I proceeded to my cooking class, where a kid at my table ask me whats wrong and I told him what just happened. His only response was "damn, what a *****."

She claimed that she didn't know I was going to ask her anything. I told her I didn't believe her, and we really haven't talked since then. She went to the dance tonight and came home with an away message saying she had an AMAZING NIGHT! I'm kind of figuring that she went with another guy and just blew me off and cut me off to avoid hurting my feelings..

I just don't really know what to do.. I want a relationship pretty badly. I'm getting tired of random play and hookups. But I know this girl is something else.. I'm willing to give up sex, marijuana, and even alcohol for her. 3 of my favorite things in the world, given up, just so she'd like/accept me.

I'm really trying to move on, but I don't know if I ever will 100% anytime soon. I thought I had moved on, but I haven't.. I've lost all hope though, thats for sure.

Anyways, to anyone who may have read this, thank you. I just needed to get out there and get it out in the open.

Much <3 to PBF
 

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no doubt. I feel you man. Happens to me too. My biggest problem is really liking someone and not telling them or doing anything about it, and they just float on by in my life and we lose contact. I really want to start doing that, and it's especially hard with random girls I dont know, even if they're showing any sort of liking towards me.


tl;dr- my name is matt
 

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Whenever I used to like a girl I never had the balls to man up and tell her. After having about 3 girls that I really liked float by I realized that I really had to change my ways. Everyone of those girls that I just watched walk by I killed myself over not manning up and telling her.

Then one afternoon I kind of had a revelation, I thought to myself for an hour or so and came up with "Telling a girl you like her is only as hard as you make it." I'm still not sure if that is the right attitude to have when telling a girl that you have feelings for her, but it has worked with a past girlfriend, and the girl that I like now so I'm not complaining.
 

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Damn dude I had no idea a dude that looks as fly as you could ever had a woman problem such as this one. Myself I dont guess I've ever had a problem with you. But I also haven't been here as long as some of the people who supposedly dont care for you.

But about the woman deal. I lol'd at when the dudes response to your story haha. But she def knew what you were about to ask though. I mean if you were really mid sentence like that then how could she not know? Meh. I've had similar events happen and I guess I'm still not over that girl yet either but I guess I'm just trying to ignore it really. Only thing I can do.

Peace. you need a brotha...I think my AIM is in my profile if not then :WesIsHimself
 

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Happens to the best of us :(
But ya that mid-sentence interuption is ****ing bull****. Girls have amazing timing with that ****. But ya man, hope you get over it. I was in the same boat not to long ago and a few weekends later im feeling pretty good.
 

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girls are funny like that. Apparently she sees you as a friend more than anything else; that or she wasn't expecting you to do something like that.

The smart thing to do is not ask here again. If it made her unfortable once, it will a second time as well.
 

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yeah that hurts getting rejected like that...

you're not the only one here.. this girl i was crazy about i havent seen in like 2 months..

honestly girls arent even on the top of my mind right now. i wish they were.. i've been rejected from 2 collegs and deferred from another. i only have 2 more schools i have the opportunity to get into, and chances are i probably wont... it sucks. i dont even know what to do. everyone told me i'd get into college, well i havent, and i migh tnot even.

my option next is considering community college. idk if i can stand that. i mean i know i can obviously transfer, but still. my friends and everyone i know will be going away at the end of the summer, and ill be still living at home w/ my parents. i just like cant bear that, that everyone else is moving on. plus i feel like i'd be lonely and depressed sitting at home.

well its winter, once the weather warms up, everything else warms up.
 

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ahh that sucks. There is a girl i dated in the 8th grade and i am still mad in love with her. She tells me the only reason she don't want to date me is cause she's afraid she'll fall in love and she doesn't want that right now. :(
 

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hey man i feel ya...but remeber this. No matter what happens with that girl, always keep an open mind. I've been so obsessed with a girl before, that i didn't even notice when another was really trying to get to know me. ( one of the worst mistakes ever)
 

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hey man i feel ya...but remeber this. No matter what happens with that girl, always keep an open mind. I've been so obsessed with a girl before, that i didn't even notice when another was really trying to get to know me. ( one of the worst mistakes ever)
Yeah I'm pretty sure 2 of my friends might have a thing for me.. so I'm going to start hanging out with them a lot now.
 

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lol i made the mistake of tryin to get back with this chick and not payin any attention to this senior chick that was tryin to hook up with me lol i felt like a douche. Now the senior has a bf
 

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We dated last year around November, didn't last long because when her parents found out I was a year older, they flipped out for some reason and forced her to break up with me. She kept refusing and kept getting yelled at and grounded. I finally told her it's over, because I didn't want her to suffer because of me. Now before we had dated, I had liked her since like July or August. One of the best nights of my life was at a football game we went to together.. I still look back on that.

this is going to sound strange, but they got upset for a year? my ex girlfriend was three years younger than i am (and even though it presented it's disadvantages it had many advantages along with it) her parents are probably just worried about her and don't want her getting hurt - try and talk to them and let them know you're a good guy...

don't sell yourself to them, but if you befriend them they will be comfortable with your relationship with their daughter.


I got owned.. I was in the middle of saying "So I know how much you wanted to go to the dance, and I was just thinking that you and me.." right then and there, she frantically said "I'm sorry I've really got to get to lunch and go study." Gave me a hug and rushed off to the Commons. I stood there, just staring at her thinking "what the hell just happened?" I proceeded to my cooking class, where a kid at my table ask me whats wrong and I told him what just happened. His only response was "damn, what a *****."

She claimed that she didn't know I was going to ask her anything. I told her I didn't believe her, and we really haven't talked since then. She went to the dance tonight and came home with an away message saying she had an AMAZING NIGHT! I'm kind of figuring that she went with another guy and just blew me off and cut me off to avoid hurting my feelings...

there is a chance she didn't know. honestly i've had that happen to me before and someone was asking something - right then - i realized i had to run. but if it was an attempt to avoid the question, you can probably feel safely that she's afraid to get hurt again. she obviously liked you as much as you liked her because you still thought about her after the relationship and she still tried to keep it together through all the hardships her parents brought on...

talk to her about it, and be open minded, even if it felt like she knew you were asking. if she says she didn't know you have to understand that is a possibility - and try not to put a lot of your feelings into it... ask her how she did on the test she was studying for.


I just don't really know what to do.. I want a relationship pretty badly. I'm getting tired of random play and hookups. But I know this girl is something else.. I'm willing to give up sex, marijuana, and even alcohol for her. 3 of my favorite things in the world, given up, just so she'd like/accept me.

i understand what you're saying, but you shouldn't have to change yourself for someone to like you. if you do it's going to present problems where they think you're doing stuff you're not and then you're going to resent it, and when an opportunity comes you'll think something like "well she already thinks i'm doing it."

only more problems can come of that situation... (and i mean that on more of the beer/marajuana level lol.)

but, if you change yourself for you there shouldn't be a problem - and then if something does happen between you two the change will have been on your part and you won't just go right back...

if you think that quitting smoking and drinking is going to be beneficial to you - do it, but if it's just for her you're going to run into problems.


Much <3 to PBF
just randomly - she might be afriad that she'll get hurt if her parents wont accept you and you'll find that if they're your friends she'll probably be more willing to look into a relationship...

i'm not trying to give too much advice, just what i've seen before - and if you like something or an idea - you can change it as much as you want for it to work for you...

i hope this all works out in the end...

p.s. this is almost the EXACT same situation i was in when i was a freshman and a sophomore. but, without the drinking and smoking thing...
 
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